The Ultimate Guide to Social Self-Mastery
10 Social Habits Destined to UP Your Interpersonal Game
Habit 2: Acknowledging people with a gesture.
Today’s habit has to do with becoming more open to the idea of dealing with people. How many times have you experienced that moment where someone, perhaps even a stranger, was approaching you in your direction and who waved at you, and then you waved back, only to find out afterward that they were actually waving at someone else?
If I may ask, what was it that inspired you to return a wave? After all, this person could have been a complete stranger ... Powerful stuff, isn’t it?
Gestures are a powerful tool for people who know how to employ them successfully. If you have ever flipped somebody off, you have the general idea of how gestures can impact people emotionally. The same concept applies to situations where people kiss their fingertips, and then extend their arms with palms facing upwards, blowing kisses.
What you are doing with your hands and body has the potential to, interpersonally, break down your obstacles, or stack them up completely against you. It is your choice. Let’s take this further.
Today’s habit deals with bridging the gaps between you and other people. It is about blurring the lines of separation. Think of it this way: who doesn’t love it when people are respecting them? I can almost certainly think of no one who wouldn’t enjoy having respect from other people. This is exactly what gesturally acknowledging people is about: respect and recognition.
This habit can be employed in a variety of different ways: for gestures, you can make peace signs, give a low wave, raise your right or left hand straight up, flex (not tensen) your arm muscles in a bodybuilder pose, give them thumbs’ up, shoot finger-guns from your hips, smile, cross your eyes, wink, or bow your head slowly at people as you pass. By doing any of these, you are practicing acknowledgement not only in favor of the people you are gesturing, but also yours. After some time, you will feel your confidence levels begin to rise like a positive side-effect of using this daily habit. From foe to friend, you will go in their minds in a matter of seconds with almost no physical or mental effort.
People will become more responsive to you as you do this more frequently with them. Cute girls (or boys) will feel special, too. Gesturing causes a chain reaction, much like adding baking soda to vinegar would; but, in people, that they will feel inclined BY THEIR HUMAN NATURE to return a gesture of their own making and style. Gestures are almost always reciprocated. This, I can guarantee.
Homework Preceding Day Three
From about 10 to 15 feet away, start gesturing people as you pass them. This allows you to be a comfortable distance away to do what is necessary to achieve their successful feedback. A good rule of thumb is that if you cannot see the whites of their eyes, you may be too far and should wait until they are much closer to perform your gestural action.
Try this with five people and then ask yourself: which of the above gestures works best for me and my personality? Did any of them not work as well as others? At what distance works best?