‘Wherever You Go, There You Are’
– a term describing the process of how your identity forms around your interactions with, and in the act of relating to, your multi-faceted world.
You’re probably familiar with the statement that you become more like the people you spend your time with, and this is true on a more profound level: interfacing is you becoming more like the objects, places and non-physicals you interact with each day.
How it Works
When you think about your dog, you’re focused on your relationship with it. The thoughts that come to mind after thinking about your dog are likely related to it, or are of something else in your immediate environment. By thinking about those things, you’re adapting your perspective to be in facilitative understanding of them. Through your adaptations, you’ll modify your behavior to elicit a specific response (or otherwise desirable outcome) in your subject.
The relationships you form with your environment, including your relations to the objects of your desires, are integrated into your identity. This process of interaction and assuming identity is interfacing.
Since humans are animals, and animals are emotional creatures, we primarily relate to the world empathically. We attempt to imagine what it’s like to be another (person, animal, object, etc.) to the point where we may even begin to put reasons behind actions where none were intended.
As discussed in Seeing Beyond Your Assumptive Urge: Decreasing ‘Perspective’ Gap, we tend to see objects, much like situations, as a whole because it’d be too time consuming for us to break a candle down, to its more objective essence, “fibrous thread and highly viscous lipids,” every time we thought of one.
No matter where you look, you’ll find studies confirming your beliefs and others that discount them entirely. You’ll always find what you’re looking for.
When you’re interacting with yourself, the world or others, your thoughts are no longer directed at the entirety of things, so it’s fair to assume that you’re distracted.
Interaction, and interacting with the world at large, is a distraction from reality: from the way things are. One could argue that as an awareness, anything observed is a distraction from the understanding that you’re beyond observations; and, forthcoming, we’re all here to understand ourselves profoundly by interacting with ourselves at our various levels of existence.
No matter how extensive or brief your thoughts are about whatever you’re relating to, you’re almost always going to walk away from the interaction a bit more like whatever it is you interacted with. This applies to all things spiritual and metaphysical; the same goes for creatures and inanimate objects.
Not all of us choose where we put our attention: we don’t always make wise decisions. So, if your goal is to incite interpersonal change, you’ll need to be more deliberate where you direct your focus.
If you’d like to become more like someone you perceive to be successful, you need to start focusing on them. The reason why our society recommends so adamantly the need to find the right mentors is because of the perceivable effect they have on our thoughts, whether or not they’re around.
Practice Makes Perfect
The world will always bend to your thoughts, so focus today on what you’re interacting with most, and see if you can notice the subtle ways you’re influenced by them, and see how you’re influencing your surroundings: you may be surprised by what you learn.