Posts in Self-Acceptance
Getting Comfortable With Yourself

Imagine you are at a cocktail party with guests who aren’t members of a common social group.  In fact, most only know the host (not each other).  The more reserved introvert needs warm-up time to observe communication patterns in the room before they feel comfortable. But, once an introvert gets drawn into an engaging conversation it can be difficult to tear them away!  Contrast this to the extrovert who has a need to circulate, drawn to the energy of other people.  The introvert is more likely to feel uncomfortable at the party- the chances of meeting just the right people to sit down and converse on a topic of interest could be fairly low.  If you are on the introverted side of things, here are three tips for feeling more comfortable in similar situations:

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From Pretending to Being Myself

People have asked me about living out patterns that aren't consistent with whom they believe themselves truly to be. For instance, someone who believes he's confident, funny, and strong feels as though he's let himself down because so often he acts shy, ultra-polite, and nice.

This could be a way of living and expressing oneself that conflicts with the way someone really wants to be. When you compare yourself to some ideal self, it's very likely you'll find things that don't measure up...

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