Posts in Self-Development
Radiating New Signals to Break Free of the Scapegoat Status

People want explanations for things that go wrong. When they can’t point to facts, some choose an easy victim to take the blame. Or, when they feel insecure, they project their own perceived weaknesses onto someone else to improve their self-esteem. If you have a sensitive demeanor or show vulnerabilities more than others, you could be at risk for becoming a scapegoat. Conversely, you may be a very confident person who is viewed as mentally capable of taking the blame. Perhaps you’ve been the scapegoat in your own family. A scapegoat is...

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How to Realistically Love Your Body

If we’re honest with ourselves, most of us have some part of our body that we hate.

Whether we’re too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, have too many pimples, or too little muscle mass, our minds – and often our cultures – are very good at pointing out all the flaws in our appearances that make us different from our society’s standard of beauty.

So how can we possibly learn to love and have confidence in our own skin, without being unrealistically “blind” to our faults, or challenging the status quo...?

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Creating An Authentic -Self

We’ve heard it countless times: “Be yourself”. Is it really that easy to be yourself? How do we know what it means to actually be our authentic selves? Shakespeare, himself, even toted to be true to ourselves, but how do we get there? It’s helpful to first analyze the question of who we actually are. On the surface, many of us already identify ourselves a certain way, whether that is classified by race, gender, political party, financial status, and so on. While this may be part of us on some superficial level, these are moreso constructs of what was given to us the moment we we born, or are created even from our own point of view...

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Hope for Loner Thinkers

Intellectualization: eight syllables for habits that could be locking you in a lonely cozy shack.

Psychologists use the word for behavior patterns when someone confronts a situation or memory with strong emotional potential. Instead of living the emotions, someone using intellectualization will respond with thoughts, creating a logical bypass to the feelings.

Imagine Deeann talking to Raquel...

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Defining Vanity, And How It Is Frequently Confused With Self-Love

You may have been contemplating recently: what is vanity and how is it not self-love, or is it?

Understanding the similarities and differences becomes much easier once we understand that our upbringing teaches us about self-confidence: what it is and what it is not. Even more interestingly, our society seems to have us all convinced that having self-confidence and self-love is somehow wrong...

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