Achieving Great Results by Making Great Decisions with Confidence
Developing the confidence in yourself and in your decisions is a crucial part of success, both internally and externally. Building up confidence is a multi-faceted endeavor that requires personal growth, productivity, communication skills, and an ability to objectively assess any situation. There are many ways to go about this, but they all begin with you. Let’s take a look at how you can achieve great results by making great decisions with confidence.
Self-confidence is an ever changing quality that each of us experiences. It can be high during good times and low during tough times. The key is to view it as a trait that isn’t static. With effort, awareness, and practice, you can assess how you are feeling relating to your confidence levels, and take the necessary steps to improve your confidence. The very first step to improving your confidence, and in turn, confidence in your choices, is a positive outlook about yourself and your circumstances. When you have positive energy, you feel productive and optimistic. A positive attitude gives you a can-do attitude that prevents many obstacles from knocking you down. A part of a positive outlook is positive and healthy self-talk. “I can do this. I am capable.” Negative self-talk tanks confidence and sends people into a downward spiral where productivity and great decisions feel impossible. If it helps, you can keep a gratitude notebook where you right down something that you are grateful for each and every day (make sure to include things about yourself that you are grateful for; health, security, a creative mind, etc).
Once you begin to feel confident in yourself, you will feel more confident about your capabilities for making great decisions. When people make big decisions, many often look to others for approval. This mentality exists because we live in a society that is founded upon external approval, starting at the youngest ages. Little kids are given prizes and “good job”s for accomplishing tasks. Teenagers are rewarded for good grades. That need for external praise doesn’t just disappear the moment we reach adulthood. We have to look within and decide why we are making a choice; because it is what we feel is the best choice or because we know it is the choice that will be accepted and praised the most? We can make a confident decision when we know that we are doing the work because of an internal motivation rather than external expectations.
Self-esteem can boost or destroy your self-confidence. Your self-esteem is your view of yourself as a whole. If you feel you aren’t worthy of great things, you won’t pursue them. When you build up your self-esteem, you feel more emotional stability, you care less about what people think of you or your work, you get out there and pursue the things that matter to you, and you feel happier. You can boost your self-esteem by muting that inner critic that lives inside all of us, take care of yourself doing activities that bring you joy for the sole purpose of feeling good, and letting go of the idea of perfection. No one is perfect. We are all humans, with real human emotions and experiences. When we let go of perfect, we open the door to acceptance of failure. Failure is part of life, and it is absolutely necessary for success. Embrace failure, good enough, and a healthy dose of self-love to improve your self-esteem and productivity. And with that self-esteem boost, you will feel more confident in your own abilities which will lead to less reluctance to make decisions, and more trust in the decisions you’ve already made.
Does all of this sound good and well, but you are still having difficulty making and maintaining the decisions you’ve made?
There are many reasons that we can feel “stuck” when the decision-making process is before us. Self-sabotage and imposter syndrome can be strong when we don’t feel like we are capable. Self-sabotage happens when your inner critic is being a little too loud, telling you that you aren’t doing things right or good enough. Often we feel like an imposter when we start comparing our work to other people. “They are so much better than me. I don’t know why I’m even trying.” That is when you say, “Stop that!” to your mind. When you catch yourself talking down to yourself, or questioning your own worth, just tell your mind to stop, and focus on your strengths. It can help to create a to-do list aimed at productivity. Don’t write down every to-do you have for the day, only write down the things that will take you one step closer to your goal or decision. The list should be very short and hyper-focused on the tasks at hand. Do each one, whether you feel confident or not. This is where the saying, “fake it ‘til you make it,” comes into play. And it works.
Achieving great results by making great decisions with confidence is a worthy goal for anyone. It’s a process that requires a growth mindset; always flexible, always room for growth and change. If you feel you have lost your confidence, just take some of the steps above to climb out of the dark hole that you have created in your mind. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. And then just do. Do the work that needs to be done. Push through the lack of confidence until you start to see results. Focus on taking care of yourself, mentally and physically. With dedication, flexibility, and a whole lot of grace for yourself, you are on your way to a more confident and productive you! ⬛